Jane's Website while surfing the net. John signs Jane's Guestbook,
and then Jane turns around and visit's John's Website. Next thing
you know John and Jane start up a E-mail pen-pal relationship.
Eventually, they are writing each other by e-mail four times a
week. The more they write each other, the more they grow to like
each other. Also, the beautiful website photos of each other get
burned into the minds of John & Jane. The photo of Jane in her
Tight Shorts and Tank Top is burned into John's Mind, and the
photo of John dressed in a tuxedo, and well groomed, is burned
into Jane's Mind so that they both begin to feel a romantic
attraction towards one another. Eventually, they decide its time
to declare their love for each other, and they do. But then comes
the big event--PERSONAL CONTACT.
Jane waits for John at the airport. As John comes off the plane
and greets Jane, he all of a suddden sees that his "Physical
Attraction" for Jane is not as strong as it was before. What
has happened is that John and Jane's BODY CHEMESTRY have squared
off for the very first time, and his chemestry and her chemestry
are a lot different from each other. They spend about 2 weeks of
quality time together. During this time, John learns a lot of
things about Jane, particularly negative qualities that takes away
from his original image of her. These are things that are often
"Filtered Out" by cyberspace and the phone lines. And
with Jane, it's visa versa. At the end of the two weeks, John
catches a plane for home. When he walks in the door of his home,
his bachelor roomate asks, "How was your fantasy vacation
with the love of your life?" John replies, "It's over!"
You see, what has happened is this, both John and Jane had both
fallen in love with "Idealistic Images" of each other
that they had burned into their minds and not the "Real John
& Jane" they each met at the airport.
It is possible to develop feelings for someone else hundreds of
miles away, on the internet, even "Fall in love." I know
because I have done it myself. But what people often fall in love
with on the other end of Cyberspace are "Idealistic Images"
which they have burned into their minds, stirring up their own
body chemistry. But when personal contact is finally made, those
idealistic images are completely shattered. There have been rare
instances where a man and a woman have felt the same way about
each other after they have made personal contact, and the
relationship has gone all the way to the altar. But, instances of
this sort or VERY RARE! Why? because too much about another person
is FILTERED OUT BY CYBERSPACE. In short, a man and a woman in an
Internet relationship should never put their eggs in one basket
until they have made personal contact with each other and have
spent at least 1 or 2 weeks of quality time with each other. If at
the end of the 1 or 2 weeks, they have the same feelings for one
another, then they can announce to the world that they are in love.
But again, those instances are very rare.